Peter, 27 🇨🇦

Copy Writer, 4wN Vienna 2020

“Yo, this is Peter - I'm an alumni of Alex's 4WN program in 2020 Austria.

Alex did NOT ask me to write this testimonial and this isn't paid.

The reason I'm writing this is because I feel a moral obligation for anyone on the fence about the 4WN program. It's a life-changing program and deserves its credit.

I'm going to be brutally honest about what you can expect (even the bad parts).

Here's why the program is worth at least 5X more than what you'll invest into it:”

1.) It's fun as hell

One of the students was a 39-yr-old Indian dude, 5'3" - 5'4" in height, and looked like a mini-Gandhi (not trying to be offensive, that's just what he looked like).

He's in corporate sales and regularly closes deals worth 2 million with confidence. But with prospective partners... he was nervous af. The first night out, I don't think I've seen him approach a single person.

Out of nowhere, about two weeks into the program, he gets a new connection on an insta-date during the day. Then when we wondered where he was at night, he texts us, "Smoking weed and forming and intimate connection with this girl."

He came back with a glow that you couldn't ignore. That dude changed from the inside out.

That's just one story. Salsa dance dates, spontaneous intimate connections, making new connections with twins and then going on to an after party with them... and btw, this was all during lockdown.

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2.) You're gonna get lifelong results

"But what about the number of people you intimately connected with?! How much physical intimacy did you guys get?!"

Simmer down.

Advanced social people will probably do better on this program in terms of numbers. But that's not really the point.

If you're a bit newer, you're gonna go through an internal change before the external new experiences follow.

The month in Vienna was honestly a tough journey - every guy hit an emotional wall about two weeks in, and Alex warned us of this.

But even when warned, it still hits hard. You start disliking the process, you grow contempt for prospective partners, you start wondering why you're even doing this... all you wanted was just a cute loyal partner.

But when you get over that wall, you'll be transformed from the inside out.

The month following the program, me and two other 4WN clients went to Poland for a month.

After some recovery from the intense 4WN program, we felt recharged and went back out to social events. Started getting dates left and right - I think at one point we were all getting 3-5 new dates a week.

(Btw, one of the clients was a completely inexperienced with physical intimacy - that didn't last long.)

And not only will you see changes in yourself and new experiences of connection... you'll feel a definite shift in your identity.

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3.) You change as an individual

One of the main points Alex told me was to stop being a immature, and step into being a mature.

I was 27-yrs-old at that point, yet my mindset was still as if I was 21-yrs-old.

I didn't notice this at all, but Alex noticed it right away.

I was passive, waiting for direction from a coach, and permission to act. In social situations, I was looking for permission to express myself... instead of just giving myself that permission.

That not only held me back in dating, it held me back in business and all my relationships.

This is core to what Alex teaches - you're not taught to be a mindless socialising zombie like on other bootcamps. You're not gonna be ordered around to "go approach that person. okay, now do that one. Okay, now do this.

You're going to be trained to become your own individual mature version of yourself - so that you'll never need another dating program again.

Yes, if you're newer, Alex will give you direction and instructions. But ultimately, you'll be challenged to level up to your highest potential.

Now this connects to the next point.

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4.) Personalized and custom feedback

After every session, there will be a group debrief to help you go over what you did well and what you could have done better.

Alex has a way of knowing the exact sticking point that's going on in your head - and sticking points you are not even aware of.

Something you might think is a technical mistake, is actually a mindset mistake - but you'd never know unless someone experienced pointed it out.

And on top of this, you get an one hour 1-on-1 session with Alex each week where he'll pinpoint the exact area you need to grow.

For me, this was deep advice I never got from anyone in my life. Sometimes, it was advice I didn't want to hear. Sometimes, I thought he pointed out problems I didn't really have. But when I let the advice sink in... it was pretty obvious Alex was right.

If you've been hardstuck for a while, you'll definitely get the feedback you need here.

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5.) Holistic social approach based on self faith, not focused on tiny details

Some people like optimising every minute detail of their social demenour - they love the technical aspect.

If that's you, then cool. I'd rather be a natural.

Today, the only challenge I have is getting prospective partners out to meet for the first time.

After that, there's zero doubt in my mind that if they spend a couple hours with me they will like me. Now I'm more anxious about me not liking the prospective partner, vs. being liked by them.

The amount of control and power I feel now compared to before is unparalleled.

"There's no reason why you're not enough." It's one thing to understand it intellectually... a completely different thing to feel it to your core.

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Okay, that's pretty much it for the overview.

For me, this was the last dating program I'll ever need. And I think it will be for you too.” - Peter

Mitch, 28 🇬🇧

Biological Scientist, 4wn London 2018

“The two biggest takeaways for me was that there really is no reason why I’m not enough, which I learnt from the experiences and adventures. The second is my motivation to bring out the best of the new person when I meet them. I want to find out who the person is – connect with them on positive emotions, connect with them on vulnerable emotions, their intimacy, their heart’s desire, how they like to express themselves, all that good authentic stuff.

Hi 4WN world 🌎 . If you are considering doing a 4WN, hopefully this will help you make the right decision. It’s my experience this past month (Sep-Oct) in London. Enjoy!

It’s hard to know where to start. How do you put into words one of the most deep and real emotional experiences of your life? How do you communicate the feelings that come with growth and the “ultimate state of evolution”? All I can really do here is record my own experience, my own change, my own results, and my own 4 Week Natural. That really summarises what is the best part of this program: it’s tailored to you and your own character. I was never treated as just some other student – none of us were. It wasn’t a “one size fits all” way of thinking. We were treated as real people, with very real expectations and very real compassion, and that’s what brought out our best. And who better to bring out the best in you, hold you accountable, and teach you everything you need to know about socialising and personal growth, but a world class social coach: Alex.

From the beginning we were dedicated to self development – six of us, all from different walks of life. We each wanted change, and we each wanted the answers to so many questions. When Alex first greeted us, he had a gleam in his eye; and by the end of the program I could see something similar in each of my fellow students. He told us what to expect, both emotionally and physically, and he told us what he expected from us. The atmosphere was positive.

After the introduction it was straight to business – our first night out. From the first venue, Alex was straight on it: “I can see what level everyone is at, just by watching them in set now…”. He gave me such useful feedback from the get go. He encouraged me not to camp too long on one particular group, and before I knew it I had a good connection going with an attractive person at the bar.

My friends already had the attention of most of the people at the first venue; we were the exciting people to meet.

Alex reminded me to propose going from the bar out to a restaurant with a new person I had met, and we walked out together when the venue closed (I would later learn that this is one of the most crucial parts of meeting new people – have a fun plan to keep the connection going at the end of an event, to be the ‘person with a plan’).

The first weekend was incredible fun. I started more conversations than I could count, and learnt so much that my brain literally hurt. It was brilliant.

The de-briefs following each session were beyond next level and beyond what we could have ever expected. Alex explained our interactions and the psychology at play (both in us and the people we met) to incredible depth and high level. From the beginning it opened up a new way of thinking, and more importantly a much healthier understanding of ourselves and of new people when meeting them for the first time. Including what they’re looking for when they meet someone new, and how they feel about meeting someone new.

The coach was patient and answered all of our questions. Some of what he told us was difficult to hear because it demanded real change within us, and letting go of parts of our own way of thinking, but that’s why we chose to do it – not for cheap social ‘results’ but for authentic internal change, understanding and freedom.

What really hit home was how passionate Alex was, regardless of if he was tired or he’d had little sleep, everyday he was always on point. He also gave us so so many bonus sessions (both events during the day and events during the evening), discussions about our communication traits that need adjusting, and ample personal time to discuss personal matters.

He was so invested in our goals to become socially normal, and socially experienced. It was awesome.

The best part was doing it with the other attendees.

Our stories, our enthusiasm, and our collective new experiences created an amazing collective group dynamic.

In the beginning, everyone is so positive and empowered. In terms of personal insights… well… let’s just say every time we met up everyone had an idea to share to share, or a lesson to discuss.

The days of leaving a social event alone and confused were a thing of the past (or at least became a rarity). The new reality is leaving social events with friends, new connections, off to parties, or going off to sit down and have food with new people we’d met.

In terms of day time socialising, I had three spontaneous conversational connections that lead to sit down dates… and, an exchange of phone numbers all on the first weekend.

Becoming socially outgoing and normalising new connections became the norm for all of us.

Everyday I would wake up, look at my phone, and it would be either full of messages from people I had newly connected with, or interesting stories about fun experiences with new people the attendees had met, posted on the group chat. There was a lot going on.

As the program progressed everyone had more and more new and exciting social experiences, but what was really inspiring was seeing the change start to take place in the other students.

One of the guys who had initially come across as a very serious person, became brighter in the face and more expressive, and to a different student, I remember saying “Dude you look really happy and relaxed..” “I know.. it’s like Alex has pulled the plug on a lot of the stuff I had in my head before.. now I’m not hard on myself, I’m no longer self confrontational...it feels good”.

The effect Alex was having on us, and that we were having on each other, was very real. I can’t quite describe the feeling of knowing that your coach and fellow attendees are wanting you to learn and grow.

Overcoming personal obstacles, encouraging you to continue to learn, pushing you beyond your comfort zone.

When we had new experiences, and demonstrated the principles of normal socialisation, Alex would be ecstatic – it was a powerful thing.

He taught us how to properly understand new people we were meeting, how to have an awareness of the dynamics of social events, how to fully express ourselves, how to make a plan after a social event has concluded, the list goes on.

Our group was solid; most of us already had a lot of social experience from the beginning, which meant that we each learnt so much from one another, as well as our coach.

To top it off, Alex also took us out to take dating app photos with his Hasselblad professional camera (this photo shoot itself is worth 2K.. but he gave it us for free as part of the program). We also had the chance to meet the other 4WN alumni in London, which was a great opportunity to network.

At the end of the program we all celebrated together; no longer just students but steadfast friends.

Each of us had learned a lot, and each of us had earned each others’ respect. It was so sad when the time came for Alex to leave, and I could have sworn I saw a tear in his eye when he did 😉.

After he had left, we shared a cigar, and each of us shared to the group what we respected about each other individually. It was my favourite moment of the program. I didn’t know these guys 4 weeks previous.. but now I felt like I had known them for years. They think like me, they share the same values that I do, and they are good people.

How has the 4WN changed my life? The two biggest takeaways for me was that there really is no reason why I’m not enough, which I learnt from the experiences and adventures. The second is my motivation to bring out the best of the new person when I meet them. I want to find out who the person is – connect with them on positive emotions, connect with them on vulnerable emotions, their sexuality, their heart’s desire, how they likes to express themselves, all that good authentic stuff.

That’s what sparks the gleam in my eye, and that is my role as an empowered person. No more social conditioning fogging it up. I simply ask myself “how can I make this easy for the person I’m meeting, and how can I make this easy for me?” Simples.

Alex I can’t thank you enough. You changed the Game for us all, and the 4WNLondon2018 salutes you.

Bob, 54 🇺🇸

Commercial Airline Pilot, 4wN Sydney 2017

Working with Alex James and the 4WNatural program literally saved my life.

Prior to working with Alex, I was an emotional mess. My self esteem and self confidence was very low. And surprisingly, I am quite an accomplished professional in many aspects of my life, but I suffered this lack of self confidence for most of my life.
Working with Alex and watching his YouTube Channel completely changed my life. I have never felt so good and so healthy and so self confident. I believe every high school senior should work with Alex. It would save them a lifetime of heart aches and disappointment. These five letters saved my life: NRYNE. No Reason You’re Not Enough. Brilliant! And it’s all from Alex James.

Whenever I worked with Alex, he gave me his undivided attention. Even when he had eleven other students, Alex always made me feel like I was his only one. He is the consummate professional and his knowledge of people of all genders in the dating game, and relationships is second to no one. He is the real deal and I highly recommended any person of any age to work with Alex and take advantage of his knowledge and life lessons.

My only regret is that I had to wait till I was much older in life to meet Alex. I have never felt better about myself since working with him. Alex James is simply, THE BEST!

Johnny, 32 🇧🇪

Pharmaceutical Sales, 2wN Warsaw 2024

In some sets girls "rejected" me, although later, when they saw me talking to other groups, having fun, persevering and simply feeling good about myself, THEY actually came back to ME.

At some point I even had guys from Norway dragging me to their group of girls to introduce me

I got back home a week ago from doing the 2WN with Alex in Warsaw. Life changing event. 

For someone living and working in Poland, with an average Polish salary- this was a huge financial decision. In hindsight - totaly worth it. 

Before and during the program he is very responsive on whatsapp for any kind of questions and doubts. Even after the program he remains responsive, cheering for your succes stories and even giving some bits of advice.

He calls it a two week program, but its actually more ( 17 days ). 

Alex takes us out 3 weekends to nightclubs, and during the week there are daygame sessions. He gives a lot of personal attention to each student when we are in the field, and he gives exactly the kind of feedback appropriate for the level of each student.

You can simply tell by his aura when in the nightclub that he knows what he teaches.

He gives you plenty of freedom to create your own style of game, yet he gives a lot of tools and reassurance whenever you feel in doubt. 

Fashion advice he gives is on point, you can take it or leave it ;)

As someone who once had a bad experience with another bootcamp many years ago, i was very hesitant to pay this amount of money, especially since i didnt really know Alex that well yet.

But I can assure you: He delivers on what he promises. It is of course up to yourself how much you take his advice to heart, you still need to put in the work , and YOU need to WANT to improve yourself. 

One of my big fears before signing up for the program was that i would follow his instructions DURING the program, but once I'd be back home, without his guidance, i would go back to my old ways, being too shy and afraid to even approach. 

I am so relieved to say that this is not the case. 

I have learned to enjoy it, and THAT for me is the absolute reason why i recommend anyone to take his program. 

I am now back home, and have gotten a few numbers from normal daytime interactions, with girls finally texting me back and agreeing to meet up. 

Equally as important to me: yesterday i was in the club, completely sober , having fun, talking to anyone.

In some sets girls "rejected" me, although later, when they saw me talking to other groups, having fun, persevering and simply feeling good about myself, THEY actually came back to ME.

At some point I even had guys from Norway dragging me to their group of girls to introduce me.

Alex teaches you how to be persistent, stand up for yourself, and how to deal with rejection.

Personal takeaway: Rejection isn't real as long as you are focused on having fun and improving yourself. Or at least: other people can not "reject you", you can only reject yourself (which is exactly what i did for many years) . Which brings me to his motto "No Reason You're Not Enough". He mentions this at the beginning, and a few times throughout the course.

Now, at the end, it is actually what i believe. 

Not only in game. Also at work, doing groceries, or in the gym. I am enough, You are enough.

This philosophy is so real coming from Alex. He does have a lot of fun stories to share, but he also doesnt hide his own doubts and struggles in life. 

Which just goes to show: it doesnt matter, every one has struggles. Keep taking action, keep improving, keep an open mind, and a lot can happen. 

Everything is chaos, but lets f***ing go!

Thanks Alex.